FetLife the Kinky Social Media Site

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FetLife is a social media platform for anyone with any kind of kink. It’s a fun and safe place to meet people who are into the same kind of kinkiness as you! Of course we could all use Facebook for this but we don’t really want to broadcast our kinks to our friends… or our nan! When you join FetLife (for free) you’ll set a profile picture and pick a display name so no one will ever know who you really are.

Groups on FetLife will allow you to talk with people who are on your wavelength. If you’re into a particular kink, there’ll be a group for that. Submissive looking for a Dominant? There’s tons of groups for that too! If you can imagine it, there’s a group for it.

Take your time too, you don’t have to jump right in and get chatting to other FetLifers. Sit back for a while and see how conversations go. In some groups you’ll see that it’s very much on-topic only whereas in others you’ll find people having general chit-chat.

The great thing about FetLife is that you can also join as a couple so if you’re both looking for some extra fun you can join together to meet new people and find events near you.

FetLife does have an events section. You’ll see the tab when you join. In there you’ll be able to search for events across the globe. From massive events like FetCon in the USA to small gatherings (called ‘Munches’). Munches are normally held in a local function room, in most cases the dress code will be casual, so no kink attire. That means when you decide to go along other people at the venue won’t know that you’re attending a kinky event.

Is FetLife Safe?

It’s as safe as you make it. As I mentioned before you don’t have to use your real name or show your face in your profile picture. Their private messaging feature allows you to talk to other members for free and securely. Of course, staying safe online is important (read the Which article on staying safe online here) you shouldn’t share your personal information, meet with people you don’t know, give your phone number or email address (keep the chat in FetLife) and if you do decide to meet someone then make sure to meet during the day, in public and let someone else know where you’re going or better yet take someone with you. This goes for any online forum, not just FetLife.

Are there other options?

FetLife might seem a little too much for you, maybe you just want to find a like minded person to date and (hopefully) share your life with. That’s where Fetish.com comes in, your regular dating site designed to help anyone with a fetish find that special someone.